Some birthdays are meant to make you feel another year older and some are meant to make you feel loved…Yesterday’s was one that made me feel loved..Love showered through the wishes from my parent in-laws, my mom, my family, my friends .. and more friends on my Facebook.
The kids came down early to wish me…with their cards!! I wondered what they would’ve created this time!
N’s creation was so cute. She had made like a cut out..of 3 women…each of them dressed different. One in saree, one in pants and the third in an Indian chudi! The 3 forms of her mom she sees around everyday! That was so thoughtful..
Poo was so impressed with her own card. She loves drama!! As usual she had lots of mushy things to tell me…in her own dramatic way! She said..
“WOW mama! doesn’t my card look like a book!”
And K, the cutie that she is…created a cute card for me..explaining what mama meant to her and how that dress fits me perfectly! What more can a mom ask!
Until a few years ago..this was all I would have asked for!! When my family from India called me on my b’day, I had felt elated…I felt blessed. I felt wished. I felt good, they remembered me this day, even though I didn’t even bother to remember their’ s.
Today, that was surely necessary, but, was it sufficient?!!
Today, in this age of social networking where I’m connected with people right from the days when I took my first step. Ok! must be an exaggerated version of being connected..but, you get the point!
Following all these connections I’d made from being in school till now, where, I’m now, mostly in touch with the mom’s whose children go to the same school and pre-school as my kids…
How is it possible to not be wished by all these friends of mine?
Your diaper buddies you shared the crèche with, your school friends, college friends…encompassing all those schools/universities that you’ve been to, and a lot more people that you’ve met travelling through your life..
All of them are there to wish you well today! Isn’t that the best cake one can have?! I was lucky enough to be wished by many of you’ll.
Last month, it was Hubby’s b’day and he got a mere 17+ wishes on his Facebook page… I had told him..
“What Hubby, only 17 people thought it worth to wish you?!”
Hubby dear, the optimist he is, saw a lot of positive in it.. He replied
“Considering I hardly post anything, that, I’d not wished anybody yet…, Isn’t that great?!”
So, it all boiled down to a popularity contest here between the Palle spouses…Who is more popular?! Of course…I won the race, hands down!
Thanks for that my Facebook friends. Every wish was cherished like there wasn’t another…for me. Like I had said before…each of them..helped me add points into my Karma bank.
Remember posting birthday wishes on your friend’s Facebook wall?.. I ‘ve posted on my friend’s walls too. Did you have to struggle for the right words? Thought hard, what words would that be, that would put a one in a million smile on your friends face? Trust me, I did too!! I’m sure my friends did too!
I remember struggling to find the right words sometimes, maybe because there were so many messages on my friend’s wall…and I wanted mine to stand out!! Or, maybe I’ve not known the person for a long time and you know, people change…completely in that much time!
I know, I have!!
The friends who knew me as a kid, or even in my teens, would claim hands down, that I was a girl of few words, always lost in my thoughts and a smile sometimes. And then, Hubby dear happened. Just as I was realizing that if I don’t start talking now, I’ll have to spend all my life just listening..the kids happened, the mommy thing rubbed off on me..and the words started to pour out, first, as a trickle and then, profusely!!
So, had surely managed to get the appropriate words for a difficult situation too.
Other times, wishing some others, had been so spontaneous for me. Some recent incident with them, or a recent remark that wasn’t replied to, provides fodder to write a nice message. In the simplest of words, honesty does show out. I’ve seen the most loving, moving, honest but, simple messages from my friends on Facebook.
And then, there were times, I could just post a “Happy Birthday xyz!” and I felt like I did good!
Do you remember the ring of your name, as your friend would call out to you. The accent! Everyone has a way of talking, of calling you, right?!
Sometimes…I can feel like the person is right beside me and almost hear the voice in my ear. How my name sounds when they would say, “Happy Birthday Gayatri!”. I could hear that distinctly!
And, they would have written nothing more than just that, “Happy Birthday Gayatri!” ..but, it does magic..the voice itself reaches your ears.
I also received a few, that said…
I can understand that! You don’t feel as close to the person, yet, you do want to convey to them, that, the b’day was acknowledged and want to blow some wishes their way.
Most times, I remember, I’ve ordered around, in guise of wishing…I’d written stuff like..
“Have a blast Rupa!”, “Have a great one Jaya!”
“Have a good day Sugu!!”
Meaning to let them know..I’m not going to be jealous of you today..if you had the finest moments that I’d been yearning to have in a long long time! Go ahead…Enjoy them without any guilt!
I received a couple of wishes like that too!
Then I felt, I had a new responsibility now!! I couldn’t let my friends down, they had asked me to have fun! What would I write them back…That my day sucked!!
I had to really make it right. I had to make it great!! As I thought of how, I could do that, I found that I had made my way to the gym. The yoga instructor led us through these routines, that, when I came out of the class..along with a few aches and pains.. it was time to go for the swim…
Ahhhahh!! That was the moment, those thoughts invaded me..those thoughts, you know.. That make you take a hike from the gym…
“Its your birthday Mama!!” I could hear the kids say.
“Its your birthday Gayatri!”, I could hear Hubby dear say.
“Have a great day Gayatri!” the message said..
I mean..Its my birthday!!…
“Maybe, I can skip the swim today…Its so cold anyways…”, I thought.
Like the water in the pool was exposed to that rainy weather…But, who cares for all those facts..I was trying to make my way out..of the gym, right?!
While these thought were taking control of me, I found myself wrapped in the suit..I remembered the scale from that morning…
“I had added 3 more pounds !!! “
Still ready to run out the next moment..I walked towards the pool and lo!! there was a lane that was free! All for myself..I didn’t need to share the lane with anybody today! A birthday gift! Especially, if it was the corner one!
Ok! Maybe I’ll just finish this with 35 laps today, I thought..and took that dive into that cold water..
I came out after an hour completing my whole routine like I always did…I was able to pick Richa up from her school in time and had just reached home, the kids came home…ready with instructions for the back to school night
The school had done its share of letting me
“Have a great day!”
Right! That’s what the order/wish was all about! Wasn’t it?! It didn’t mention the evening…
People! Friends! next time when you wish for somebody, make sure you take the evening/night into consideration too…The gods do listen!! They do eavesdrop on all of these wishes…even if they are electronic!! Which ever network protocol! How ever secure!
Right. I didn’t get to go out on any dinner or even sit down with Hubby dear to share some moments together, with a cup of tea that evening.
Hubby dear reached home just in time so I could hop into the vehicle to run off to the back to school night. Oh Boy! was that fun or exercise?! Juggling through 3 classes…The school seems to have worked really hard, making sure all the three kids are placed in classes in the three corners of the school.
I came back to a quite home, everybody fed, done with their showers
Wow! Wasn’t that great!!!
Thanks so much for all your kind wishes.