But as they grew up I started noticing a chemistry develop between the trio…Clearly, the identical twins supported each other more. Especially, Baby2’s first choice to help would be her identical twin. If either of the identical had gotten a timeout, the other would cry and ask that she be released(They are still the same!).
In pre-school, the teachers clearly noticed that the identical did things at the same pace. My interaction with other parents had increased, and the triplets started understanding what people spoke. Many would make it a point to point the obvious in front of the kids, that two of them looked alike
“She is different, She has curly hair!!” somebody would say, pointing to the fraternal twin.
“Oh! she is thinner !!” another would say trying not to be offending but, I would have preferred that such remarks had not been made.
The fraternal, understood all this, and clearly felt left out. She also started to take objection to when people referred to her as a triplet.
“Mama, I don’t like to be called a triplet”. she used to say.
The identical twins , especially Baby2, had to be pushed at times to support her fraternal sister a little more which she did so happily! But then, it came to a point where she was doing everything for her fraternal sister. She would try to fix her dress if she was unable to wear it , help her find her brush and put the toothpaste on her brush. In fact, both the identical sisters had started to pitch in to help their fraternal sister. Eventually, I had to stop them from doing this since, the fraternal twin wasn’t getting an opportunity to try things for herself.
As they grew, and started to understand appearances, the fraternal twin, got conscious of her hair being more curly and lighter than the identical s, and she would try combing it, pressing it straight, when wet so it appeared straight like her twin sister’s. It took a lot of convincing to make her feel that her hair is as beautiful as her sisters.
Later, it was not just the appearances, their sense of humor and their stamina at physical games started to differ. Most of the times, the fraternal triplet, being weaker in frame compared to the identical could not sustain her stamina for games that needed more physical energy and preferred to watch them play.
It is not like there is all similarities between the identical twins. Although they do look similar, they have different personalities. they surely have different voices. They are outgoing, one of them being a tad bolder than the other. I’ve also seen them taking turns in their growth. Its like one of them takes a break while the other identical twin is having a growth spurt. I’ve seen them taking turns at expressing art too.
Currently, Neha is the one who has this irresistible urge to put her imaginations onto paper(Every stage their drawing’s have been different too). Poojha is not putting much on paper. A few months ago, Poojha used to be in those shoes and before that..again it had been Neha. I’m sure there’s more than just the drawing part that is going on in the background. They do loose their teeth around the same time. When it comes to tears, one of them does a better job at being a cry baby.
There may be a lot of differences that may exist between the fraternal and the identical twins and surely, the identical twins may have a stronger bond between them, which I don’t think any schooling or parenting will be able to change what is nature. They are sharing the same DNA, right!! Still, I would say, this fraternal twin has more fun being a triplet than she would have had otherwise. All these years of growing up together, have ingrained in them a sense of belonging to each other. They don’t feel nice if anyone of them is grounded. Their relationship is something to feel.
Here I present some pictures of the fun times they have had together (as well as of times that could be funny to us).
Like in this pic, they were about 3 years and the day was Diwali. I had dressed them for the festival..but by the time I finished..they were all tired and sleepy. This is the pose we got all dressed up…All of them screaming and Pavan trying to save this pic by showing all his 32’s.
Here they were trying to be the earth, flower and sun. Neha was wearing green and is on the ground being the grass, Kauvya was the flower wearing purple and Poojha was the sun high up in the sky (Well, as high as she could go!)
Being a Palle triplet, identical or fraternal…is the same..FUN FUN FUN!!!